I'm frustrated, to say the least, and need some help!!!
Very recently we've discovered that Bria is a really good lier!!! REALLY GOOD! Here are some examples...
#1 While Damon's family was in town, we had dinner together almost every night. One night in particular, it was about 10:30pm...on a school night, and Bria was crying to me about not getting any dessert. Here's our conversation...
"Mom, that's not fair. I didn't have ANY dessert."
I asked, "Why didn't you have any?"
"Cuz I was playing with Micah"
"Micah had some dessert."
"When he came down for dessert, I stayed in my room and played."
"Well, it's 10:30 and you have school tomorrow, so you'll have to have extra dessert tomorrow night, ok?"
FULL BLOWN CRYING FIT...
"That's NOT FAIR mom!"
Then, she went downstairs, got a half gallon of ice cream and asked for "just a tiny little bite" and she'd go "straight to bed and not get out".
At this point I felt really bad, but didn't want to give in, so I sent her to bed. I went down stairs and had this conversation with Damon's sister...
"I feel so bad cuz Bria didn't get any dessert."
"Um...yeah she did."
"She did?"
"Yeah, I don't mean to rat her out, but I served her 3 pieces of pie!"
When I confronted her the following morning, she "didn't remember" having dessert...then, we did our own form of tasteful discipline...and...I really thought that was the end of her lying...not so!
#2 Damon just got a new cell phone. Someone called my cell phone from Damon's cell phone, and I knew it wasn't Damon...he was holding Josiah at the time! I asked Micah. He said it wasn't him. Colton was sitting on the couch watching a show...So, I asked Bria...nope, wasn't her either. I whispered to Damon to sneak into Bria's room and I'd call his cell...sure enough it was under her pillow. No one else was upstairs so it HAD to be her...right? Here's the conversation...
"Bria, why did you tell me that you didn't call my cell phone, when you actually did?"
"Mom, I DIDN'T!"
"I can't believe that you are lying to my face...it was under your pillow!"
"I didn't put it there!"
"Bria! Micah is in time-out, Daddy is holding Josiah, and Colton doesn't know my number, so it HAS to be you!!!"
"Mom, it WASN'T ME!"
Then, she started throwing another fit, and crying...Seriously...she was SO convincing that I started to believe her! It couldn't have been anyone else, and I doubted myself! Again, I followed through and started a punishment anyways. Finally, she fessed up.
#3 After punishing her for the last two instances, I wanted to test her and see if she'd lie to me again. So, there was a Mini Wheat on the stairs that was ground into the carpet. I just asked who did it so it could get cleaned up. Bria looked at me and says, "Mom, I don't remember if I did it or not." To which I said, "Bria, get down here and clean it up!"
The thing is...they are the LAMEST reasons to lie! Dessert? Calling my cell phone? A Mini Wheat? Come ON! Seriously, if she wanted more dessert...not a big deal. Calling my cell phone... why would I get mad at that? A broken Mini Wheat??? Honestly, I'm at my whit's end! SOMEONE HELP ME!!! Do your kids lie? If they do, how do you handle it? How can I help her learn that lying is not ok? Any and all suggestions are welcome!!!